“Humans are designed to seek comfort and order, and so if they have comfort and order, they tend to plant themselves, even if their comfort is not all that comfortable, even if they see clearly want for something better”
Do you feel stuck? In your career? Your romantic life? Your health routine? If so, odds are complacency has gotten a hold of you and the fear of change has immobilized you.
Two things can’t occupy the same space.….To live the life you dream, you often have to let go of the one that keeps you safe.
Everyone loves their routines. Routines or habits are apart of being human. They make us feel safe and comfortable. The majority of our routines are also outside our cognition(logic), our intellectual brain, which is why we keep repeating the same behaviors…even when we don’t want to.
“Complacency is the death of dreams and freedom.” -Issac Hooke, ATLAS
Complacency is this feeling of being satisfied with the way things are but in an uninformed, unaware way. Complacency has us living a life that’s comfortable, going through the motions keeping the status-quo, while being somewhat detached as we dream of a happier, more exciting, more fulfilling and loving life.
Complacency is ruled by fear, not happiness.
The moment you realize you’ve become complacent is the day you need to make it a point to start to change your life. No matter how much it scares you, the long term gains will be worth the short term upheavals. If not, your spirit, your Joie De Vivre for life will surely die. This death will cause you stress. Then the immune will shut down because of the stress, and overtime, bit by bit, body part by part, emotion by emotion we will become dis-eased.
Desiring a comfortable, normal life isn’t a bad thing. It’s when that desire turns into monotony and you find yourself living an uninspired life. When your complacency masks your fear of change, and you do nothing, you lose the gaul to take exciting risks that could bring you even greater happiness that exists just beyond your safety zone.
Urgency, in it’s truest sense, is a great tool to start overcoming complacency. I read that true urgency is not about the anxiety generated from losing, but rather, true urgency is driven by a deep determination to win. And who doesn’t want to win that inner fire back that complacency has stolen? That inner fire that once drove us in our youth to be something or someone happier, experiencing greater love than we are in our complacent lives.
True urgency can help us gain the courage we need to leave our complacent lives.
The courage to steer the course, once we’ve taken that first step, to overcome those fears and proceed to living an inspired life. Leaving your complacent life may require you to face your darkest demons ruled by your deepest fears or even to let people down who have relied on you as you lived your the complacent life, but the alternative is to live a life of cowardice.
“ Cowards die many times before their deaths. The valiant never taste of death but once.” Shakespeare
We have to decide if we want to watch our life happen or strive to make something happen. When we’ve allowed complacency to rule our hearts, minds and actions, we are usually left thinking, “ What the hell just happened?”
Personally, a complacent life scares the pants off of me. For me, it has always been a huge motivator for change. Seeing someone I care about live a complacent life literally breaks my heart. I can see how their inner fire has gone out and all I want to do is ignite for them.
One day, if we are lucky, we will all be old. And in those last moments I want to look back and know I lived a spirited life, a brave life and courageous life that fought the demons of fear in the name and pursuit of love and happiness. I want to inspire as many people as I can to do the same.
Find out what holds you back. Look it straight in the eye and become braver than it. Strive for your dreams, for the life fully-lived and loved. Know that the struggles to get there are temporary. Fight complacency with all your might, your health depends on it.
“ I lived with the terrible knowledge that one day I would be an old man still waiting for my real life to start. Already I pitied that old man.” Pat Conroy’s, The Prince Of Tides